Yesterday PK 2.0 turned 8 years old. We did what any parents would, in the midst of a global pandemic would, we over-bought on presents and gave into ridiculous whims because when you move away from all the people you know to be homeschooled and you’re mom isn’t about to throw a Covid party, that’s what one gets. She was our kid who takes all of life in stride. And does so with a grateful spirit and love for just being alive. I’m glad it was her. In addition to the craziness of a quarantine Bday we also had the first of new clergy family firsts. The Curate missed part of her birthday due to some clergy obligations. He was seriously torn up about it. However our girl bravely waved her dad off and waited until she was in the house before she let the tears fall. She’s an old and beautiful soul, wise well beyond her years. He returned today and we finished celebrating. It was wonderful.
As we navigate this new existence I am reminded how selfless clergy and their families are. Clergy willingly miss birthdays, school events, family vacations, etc because theirs is a job that doesn’t really go off the clock. Even if they are on vacation they maintain that part of their brain that is thinking of those they minister to. Likewise their partners, spouses, and children also give over pieces of their life. And some will say that we knew what we were doing and chose to live this life. You are right. But our kids, they did not. They learn flexibility and boundaries at such a young age because as PK 3.0 said “sometimes Daddy just has a lot of people to take care of. Luckily we can share.”
All of this is meant to say, we love and support our clergy people’s ministries. We enjoy living in community and we look forward to the relationships we build with our parish and the greater community. We know that although much is asked, still more will be asked of us. All I ask is, remember that the Curate, in addition to being a reverend, is also a friend, a son, a brother, a husband, and a daddy. And sometimes to say yes to one of those he must say no to others. But, we are willing to share.
May October be blessed cause 2020 is about to meet 1990’s DMX if it doesn’t give it a rest soon.
