Tests

 This week and in the coming couple, our 3 oldest will be taking academic exams to determine their growth. Yesterday our 4th grader brought home a note from her teacher asking us to write a little inspirational note for her to open on the day of her math assessment. First and foremost I'm so grateful to her kind teachers who know their students and know that the days will be filled with anxiety and look for ways to help alleviate those feelings. 

As I was writing the note out I thought back to what I wish my Mom had told me. So I told her 4 things: 

1. This one test, on this one day, isn't a definition of who you are or what you know. It's just that, one thing on one day. We are so proud of who you are, not what you know in one 4 hr period. PERIOD. 

2. Take your time. Almost nothing in life is done better fast. No bonus points for finishing fast. (At least not in academic settings). 

3. You are smart, you are kind, you are important, and nothing else matters. 

4. When the exam is done, it is done. Let it go. 

As a high-achieving, anxiety-ridden child/adult, this letter of encouragement would have meant the world to me. I would have known that my worth didn't rest in the test score. The thing about breaking generational cycles means that you show up and be the person the younger version of you would trust and feel loved by. If nothing else, my kids know that on their best and worst days, I love them and they are worthy. Full stop. 

If you have a kiddo (no matter the age) drop them a line and let them know that you love them. That you're proud of the things they do. And remind them that in the world of uncertainty, you love them big. 

IE Ree, you got this girl. Go do your best and know that Mama is with you, no matter what. Love you Lelery Celery, more than all the wind in West Texas.