My heros can't even drive

 If you've known our family for at least the past 6 years you know that this week, leading up to Easter is one that in clergy circles is most affectionately known as Holy Hell Week. This is a nod to sports teams that have intense schedules in prep for the beginning of a season of play. The clergy, are winding down their Lenten practices and services, and programs and are simultaneously prepping for the way to the cross for all of us. It means lots of late nights and early mornings all while fulfilling their familial duties. And clergy families shift and accommodate those long days. And while we signed up for this and know it is coming, we still sometimes hit the struggle bus a little. 

As always I'm so impressed with our kids' ability to be flexible. The older ones hit this week with grace and kindness and help bring the littles along with them. They pitch in and help with things like bath time and story-reading. They will do extra dishes without a lot of whining or complaining cause they know we need the help. And before getting any bees in your bonnets, we do not make them do extra things. They have been raised to understand that when you see anyone struggling you do what you can and know that the same will be done for you. They do it because they are kind. They appreciate their contributions and know that Mom and Dad appreciate all they do. 

As a clergy spouse, you do what you can to keep this side running smoothly. And year to year and even day to day that means different things. I thrive in chaos and the best parts of me come out in these moments and days ahead. And being able to be helpful to my clergy spouse as well as focus on our kids makes me feel good. Additionally, it is great to see your spouse thrive in their work. To watch them live out that dream that your family has helped to come to fruition. To stand with them in the congregation and celebrate the victory of life over death, each year. 

All this to say, be gentle with your pastor and his or her or their families. This week means so much to you and yours and we know that. Know that your clergy has been planning for this week for months. They are truly giving all they have. If you see them out in the community, and maybe they look a little frazzled, they are but they are looking forward to Resurrection Sunday too! 

From our family to yours, we look forward to walking with you as we turn our faces toward the cross and cannot wait to celebrate the miracle that is coming for all of us. Until then, you let us know how we can pray and support you and yours and maybe you throw one up for us too!