To have and to hold

 Many times on this blog I have spoken of how fortunate I am to have the Vicar. I've spoken about how he embodies our marriage vows. How he took "in sickness and in health, in good times and bad" to heart. How he rarely complains and does things with great love, patience, and empathy. Well, buckle up cause another volume is coming your way. 

Through the last month, he has yet again been the rock and solid foundation upon which our family leverages itself. Without complaint or even a deep sigh, he has taken care of all 6 of us for over a month. When I was unexpectedly hospitalized he organized help and made sure things ran smoothly. He has spent countless hours managing the crew, doing shopping, feeding, and shodding everyone. He makes sure I take my meds on time. He makes sure I eat and drink. He has shouldered this load with grace and tenderness. He demands that I rest and recover. I know he's been tired but he never complains. Even though he missed out on a nice relaxing Father's Day he focused on his flock and our littles. Y'all, I truly don't know if I deserve him but I'm glad I have him. 

Often I tell our children that when they are grown up and looking for a partner, look for someone like their Dad. Someone who loves and respects them. For someone who doesn't see things as 50/50 but who believes that a partnership is 100/100. Find someone who will wash clothes, clean up vomit, stay up all night with you when you don't feel well, who will sleep on a hard chair because doing so means they can watch over you, someone who will know what makes you happy and tirelessly tries to bring that each day. In addition, they should try to embody those qualities as well. Love is great but commitment is just as important. Building a life with someone is so much more than just love. 

Once again, Vicar, I'm so blessed and fortunate to have you as my partner. My most beloved coworker. I wouldn't have achieved nearly as much in this life without your unending support, cheering me on, and your ability and willingness to always be reliable and consistent. I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated!